[antifragile 4 🔥] a relationship check-in, LinkedIn gardening, magic of reading, how to be unhappy.
#5: a weekly newsletter on leveraging fatherhood into massive personal growth. on being the fire and wishing for the wind.
Welcome to the 5th edition The Antifragile Dad’s newsletter, the antifragile 4 🔥.
It’s a weekly 4-item newsletter on leveraging fatherhood into massive personal growth. Expect it every Friday.
👋 psst! a reminder: regardless of what’s going on with work, health, money, creativity, or anything in between - being a father is the highest calling that has ever existed for a man on this planet. and you’re doing it. don’t forget that.
Here’s this week’s antifragile 4 🔥:
a set of questions ❤️ to elevate the relationship with your wife or partner.
a LinkedIn profile 🧑🏻🌾 to remind you that life isn’t all about work.
a cartoon 📚 visualizing the magic of reading vs TV.
a quote 💬 on how to be unhappy.
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1.) a set of questions ❤️ to elevate the relationship with your wife or partner.
Scheduling a “relationship check-in” is a powerful way to elevate the connection with your wife/partner.
Busy lives result in issues piling up, unresolved until they blow up some random Tuesday over a pile of dirty dishes.
Avoid the blowups by scheduling time (literally, create a recurring event on your shared calendar) to sit down over coffee/wine and have each of you run through these 4 questions:
What is the other person doing well?
What am I doing well?
Where can I improve?
What would I like to see more of from the other person?
#4 is especially powerful, as it provides an opportunity to bring up “touchy” topics in a non-confrontational way.
These check-ins are easy not to do. But the ROI is crazy.
Found via Tim Ferriss (here).
2.) a LinkedIn profile 🧑🏻🌾 to remind you that life isn’t all about work.
We usually think about work as linear - dead-ending into retirement at some point.
What if, instead, we thought about it in seasons? Check out this LinkedIn profile (from this tweet).
What thoughts come up when you look at this?
Unrealistic? Irresponsible? Amazing? Antifragile?
If you could take “Gardening Leave”, would you? What would it be called? What would it look like? Fifty years from now, would you (or your family) be glad you did it?
3.) a cartoon 📚 visualizing the magic of reading vs TV.
One of my favorite cartoons from Sergio Duce on Instagram.
Are you happy with the example you’re setting for your kids with reading vs. TV/phone?
4.) a quote 💬 on how to be unhappy.
If you want a recipe for unhappiness, spend your time accumulating a lot of money and let your health and relationships deteriorate. -James Clear
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I have 3 asks before you go:
Think of a fellow dad you respect and share this with him.
Join us at The Antifragile Dad Community.
Be fire & wish for the wind. 🌬️🔥
Thanks for reading,
Chris