[antifragile 4 🔥] Altered Carbon on kids' impact on your relationship, millennial dad love, making things fun/easy, ridiculously cool AI release
#16: a weekly 4-item newsletter created to inspire dads to use the challenges of fatherhood as fuel for building an incredible life & an antifragile mind.
It’s amazing how you forget how impossibly small and alien-like newborns are 👶🏻
Welcome to the 16th edition of the antifragile 4 🔥.
It’s a weekly 4-item newsletter from The Antifragile Dad created to inspire dads to use the challenges of fatherhood as fuel for building an incredible life & an antifragile mind. Some weeks will have a theme, others will meander. Expect it every Friday.
Here’s this week’s antifragile 4 🔥:
a quote from Altered Carbon 😍 that I’m relating to kids’ impact on your relationship with your wife/partner
a post 👨🏻 on millennial dads
two wonderful questions from Tim Ferriss 🤔 that can transform any situation
a ridiculously cool AI release from Google 🤖 that I had to share.
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1.) a quote from Altered Carbon 😍 that I’m relating to kids’ impact on your relationship with your wife/partner
In the end, if you endure, if you beat the traps of boredom and complacency, in the end what you are left with is not love. It is almost veneration.
Richard K. Morgan, Altered Carbon
A friend once told me that kids are quickening agents for the best and worst of your relationship with your wife/partner.
If you can’t communicate effectively, apologize frequently, assume the best intent, work as a team and grow together throughout this insane process called parenthood, you’re screwed.
Honestly, I see why divorces happen. This shit will push you to the edge.
But, if you choose the antifragile lens, the neverending flow of challenges can be a gift to continually flush out the bad and fortify the good that exists between you.
And perhaps, in the end, you’re left with not just love but veneration.
2.) a post 👨🏻 on millennial dads
A fellow dad sent me this post the other day.
More evidence of my theory that millennials are the greatest parents this world has ever seen. #notbiased
Shout out to Tyler!
3.) two wonderful questions from Tim Ferriss 🤔 that can transform any situation
What might this look like if it were maximally fun?
What might this look like if it were easy?
I’ve heard Tim ask these questions many times, in many contexts. The most recent was his New Podcasting Rules post.
They’re powerful. We often convince ourselves that boring, painful, and hard is how things must be. That efforts must be complicated to be worth doing.
But what if you took another look?
Do you have to do those things? And if you do, could they be restructured to make them fun and easy?
Exercise. Writing. Weekend with the kids. Cleaning the house. Taking care of the yard. Unnecessary recurring meetings.
All the things. Ask those questions and see what comes up.
4.) a ridiculously cool AI release from Google 🤖 that I had to share.
👉 Google NotebookLM’s new instant podcast-creating feature.
This doesn’t have anything to do with fatherhood…but it was just too cool not to share.
You can create an instant conversational podcast episode with just a single source of data (like a webpage). And it sounds real.
Like real, real.
Check this out - this podcast episode was generated from a single blog post called “How Much Is a Golf Simulator?” from PlayBetter.com (my company). It’s staggering how realistic it is.
And this one came from another post on our site promoting the Garmin fenix 8 release.
If your brain isn’t blasted out of your skull right now 🤯, you’re not appropriately appreciating this.
Have fun! And be nice to our future AI overlords!
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Two last things for you this week:
Restructure something in your life as fun or easy (or both).
Be fire and wish for the wind 🔥
With love,
Chris