[antifragile 4 🔥] what marriage MUST be, Chef/Ironman on pressure, where to find magic, creativity with Mike Posner
#11: a weekly 4-item newsletter created to inspire dads to use the challenges of fatherhood as fuel for building an incredible life & an antifragile mind.
Welcome to the 11th edition of the antifragile 4 🔥.
It’s a weekly 4-item newsletter from The Antifragile Dad created to inspire dads to use the challenges of fatherhood as fuel for building an incredible life & an antifragile mind. Expect it every Friday.
Here’s this week’s antifragile 4 🔥:
an idea 💡 on what marriage MUST be.
a video 🏊🏻♂️ from Chef & Ironman Dale McKay on viewing pressure as a gift.
a reminder 🪄 on where to find magic.
a quote 💬 on being creative from Mike Posner.
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1.) an idea 💡 on what marriage MUST be.
Marriage (or any long-term relationship) must be antifragile. Or it will fall apart. There are no other options.
It must strengthen when faced with adversity. Challenges must crystallize it.
There will be moments when your partnership feels blasted into a thousand pieces.
But it’s the pause, the deep breath, the reaching down and grabbing those pieces to build something stronger, more brilliant, more amazing than you realized possible which makes a partnership truly magical.
(Can you tell my wife and I just resolved a fight?)
2.) a video 🏊🏻♂️ from Chef & Ironman Dale McKay on viewing pressure as a gift.
“When you prioritize things you love, they can all fit in…Pressure is a gift.”
Dale McKay
Chef, Restuaranteur & Ironman Finisher
3.) a reminder 🪄 on where to find magic.
I went on a hike with my son. As he stood chucking rocks into the river, it struck me…this is magic.
There’s a little mini-me standing five feet away playing in gorgeous, clear water in a quiet, rainy forest.
How could that be anything other than magic?
And do you know what the cool thing is? Any time in life can be magical.
Magic is everywhere if you just look. Most of us just forget to look once in a while.
I just happened to find it chucking rocks into a river.
4.) a quote 💬 on being creative from Mike Posner.
Being creative is making the art you want to see in the world. That’s it.
-Mike Posner (on Rich Roll podcast)
What do you want to see in the world?
Aside - Mike Posner’s creative/life arc is incredible (this podcast tells it well). If you only know him from his popular songs, this will be an even better listen. The guy is deep.
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I have 2 asks for you this week:
Try to find magic wherever you are right now. Maybe it’s steam coming off your coffee, maybe a tree casting shadows on your deck, maybe it’s your child shoving potatoes into their mouth. Magic comes in all shapes and sizes.
Be fire and wish for the wind 🔥
With love,
Chris