[antifragile 4 🔥] the value of NO with Scott Galloway, satisfaction before and after, the ever-growing X dollar, a new cellphone law in Virginia
#46: a weekly 4-item newsletter created to inspire dads to use the challenges of fatherhood as fuel for building an incredible life & an antifragile mind.
Welcome to the 46th edition of the antifragile 4 🔥.
It’s a weekly 4-item newsletter created to inspire dads to use the challenges of fatherhood as fuel for building an incredible life & an antifragile mind. Some weeks will have a theme, others will meander. Expect it every Friday.
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📸 50-Word Dad Life Snapshot: It poured on Tuesday. Both literally and figuratively. Our child care unexpectedly evaporated thanks to an illness. It was...one of those days.
But a day that ends pitching to your 2-year-old as he cranks baseballs in the rain is one I wouldn't trade anything for.
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Here is this week’s antifragile 4 🔥:
the value of getting to NO 🚫 with Scott Galloway
Brooke Castillo on satisfaction 😌 before and after a decision
Tim Ferriss 💀💰 on how most people work until death
a new cellphone law 📱 in Virginia
+ AI Image of the Week 🤖 🎨
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1.) the value of getting to NO 🚫 with Scott Galloway
(Start at 59:00)
What is the key to success?
No.
Scott Galloway
Becoming comfortable with rejection is a superpower, and I want to instill it in my boys.
Whether it be finding a potential mate, working on ambitious projects or designing your lifestyle, the roads to the biggest rewards are strewn with the corpses of No’s.
How comfortable you are with those No’s is a big indicator of how much fun your life can be.
It’s a skill I’m still very much working on myself.
2.) Brooke Castillo on satisfaction 😌 before and after a decision
I’ve previously shared Brooke Castillo’s episode on being decisive, but there’s an important nuance that’s worth calling out.
(This quote isn’t it…but it was too good not to include…)
Not making a decision is also a decision.
Brooke Castille
She talks about the importance of being satisfied both before and after whatever decision you’re making. This is a powerful concept.
It removes your satisfaction from the decision calculus. You’re going to be satisfied regardless of the result.
This frees you up to move from one interesting decision to the next, leaving the emotional baggage at the door.
Experiment. Experiment. Experiment. Staying satisfied throughout.
That is another superpower.
3.) Tim Ferriss 💀💰 on how most people work until death
This is how most people work until death; “I’ll just work until I have X dollars and then do what I want.”
If you don’t define the “what I want” alternate activities, the X [dollar] figure will increase indefinitely to avoid the fear-inducing uncertainty of this void.
Tim Ferriss, Four Hour Work Week
Why can’t you do what you want right now?
But (here’s the kicker)….do you know what you actually want?
4.) a new cellphone 📱 law in Virginia
We typically keep the news out of this newsletter, but this is important.
These types of laws lay the foundation for our kids being able to develop outside the grip of addictive technology, the evidence against which is increasingly damning.
Here’s just a few:
Nearly 50% of teenagers claim to be online constantly during their waking hours
Teens who spend more than 3 hours a day on social media double their risk of experiencing mental health issues like anxiety and depression
High screen use in young children is linked to delayed development of executive function, including self-regulation, decision-making, and impulse control.
I’m no Luddite, but unregulated technology bingeing hurts developing brains. It’s a parenting priority of mine, and I’m glad to see action being taken on it in schools.
AI Image of the Week 🤖 🎨
“teen asking a girl out, getting rejected and feeling good about it.”
(I initially corrected the speech bubbles…but there’s something nice about letting the lunacy of AI art shine)
Two last things for you this week:
Ask someone something you know they’ll say no to. Try to enjoy it.
Be fire and wish for the wind 🔥
With love,
Chris
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